Wednesday, May 18, 2016

If you care about my thoughts on the bathroom situation

Hi there. It’s been a while, but there’s something on my brain and I need to just get it out and I saw this blog from a mom today and I was like THANK YOU!!! Let me preface this by first saying that I’m not one to call another person ignorant because they believe something different than me. The world would suck if we all thought the same stuff. However, I do believe that a person is ignorant if they’re unwilling to open their eyes to other people’s opinions or feelings or beliefs. I don’t have a tolerance for ignorance, either. It’s probably one of my biggest flaws, but we all have them, right?

This whole bathroom argument is seriously too much. People boycotting Target over it is crazy to me. Just to be sure I have my thoughts in order, I’ve done my research and yes. As always, we need to protect the people we love- just like we did every day before Target said that their bathrooms were open to anyone. Guess what? At no point have I eve seen a security guard outside of a bathroom door ANYWHERE keeping tabs on who went in what bathroom. So if you think that this is a huge issue all of the sudden, you’re wrong. If a bad person has their mind set on doing wrong, they’re going to do it. And here’s another fact. Most of this sexual stuff people are so scared about with kids is done in residences. Are people boycotting their homes? According to the stats I read, 69% of assaults reported with kids under 12 were in their home and a stranger committed only 25% of them. Should you boycott friends and family, too? Now that I mention it, yes. I know some people who should.

Here’s my thought. Our view on the Transgender community is based on Kaitlyn Jenner and that’s a really unfair portrayal. I think that she is a terrible excuse of a human being. I know that every Kardashian uses their lifestyle as a moneymaking opportunity, but Bruce had a huge opportunity to show the world how normal he could still be after his transition. Maybe it’s the hormones she has to take with the transition. I don’t know the reason behind the drama. I do know that IN MY OPINION he made a mockery of the whole process and it’s shameful.

With that being said, it’s also shameful for us to take a whole community and base our opinion on things that we don’t know. With everything else going on in the world, is the bathroom situation at Target really what we need to focus our energy on? I mean really? I’ve figured out that we cast the biggest judgment on things that we are most ignorant about. I’ve also found that some people are just flat out hateful. What can you do, right?

I can’t now nor will I ever understand how those who preach that we are all Gods children can say that someone who identifies as they do but was born otherwise makes them feel unsafe. I can’t understand how people who go to Klan meetings on Saturday night or goes out and gets wasted at the club and sleeps around and has love babies all over the place can go to church on Sunday mornings can claim that they are better than me on Sunday mornings. Being a worthy person goes further than an hour and a half once a week or tweeting a Bible verse or checking in at a fundraiser. It’s the whole package.

Maybe a lot of us should be working on our package instead of posting and picketing about the bathroom at Target.

Man. I feel so much better now that I’ve gotten that off my chest. It’s so irritating when I know that the people who pass the harshest judgment are the ones who have lived lives filled with shame.

This is the blog I read that made me want to share my thoughts on all of this. It has some seriously vulgar terms in it, so don’t read it if you can’t handle those. It’s written by the mom of a 6-year old and she’s talking about the reality of raising a little girl and the things that girls actually grow up doing and questions why we are so fearful of this bathroom mess and not the real dangers of the world.


8 comments:

  1. I agree. My 12 year old daughter shares your same views as well. Just live and let live is how I get through life

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  2. I agree. Can we go next level though and talk about segregating bathrooms on whether you're going to poop or pee? I'd like to take a wee without Def Con 1 going on in the stall next to me!

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  3. My way of fixing this problem is going back to a single bathroom with a locking door. One person or family at a time. Wait your turn or go at home!! Solves problem!!

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  4. Agree to disagree here. Utmost respect for you, but this is something that will never be agreed upon! I think some traditional thinking is needed. Like separate bathrooms for my children and I. Hate being on the other side of this, but this one doesn't fly with me.

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  5. Agree to disagree here. Utmost respect for you, but this is something that will never be agreed upon! I think some traditional thinking is needed. Like separate bathrooms for my children and I. Hate being on the other side of this, but this one doesn't fly with me.

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  6. I'm curious to know your opinion then of the middle and high schools wanting to allow gender identity in the locker/shower rooms. I just don't think it's appropriate for someone with male body parts to shower and change amongst biological females, and vice verse. There has to be a line drawn somewhere. The bathrooms have stalls and privacy is there. There should not be open interpretation when it comes to nudity or partial nudity, especially in our public school system.

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