tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2918539518713791242.post1738406921900455492..comments2023-05-25T01:22:27.714-07:00Comments on What I think about THIS and THAT and everything in between: A lotta IF/Thens and the one???Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10542501683529469258noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2918539518713791242.post-71082810780233390422013-10-22T20:23:05.848-07:002013-10-22T20:23:05.848-07:00I agree with both of you above on different topics...I agree with both of you above on different topics.. I wish you Shannon could see what a wonderful person you are, beautiful, smart and your own little funny.. you have so much to offer, please don't sell yourself short. <br /> As far as relationship, I agree with Amber. my husband and I have been married for almost 15 years. I can honestly tell you that the thing that truly makes our marriage is our friendship.. the other stuff fades with time but the friendship always remains. :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09028115776598599130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2918539518713791242.post-59114956293834592912013-10-22T19:13:49.401-07:002013-10-22T19:13:49.401-07:00I like your list of ten, with two exceptions: Num...I like your list of ten, with two exceptions: Number 10 and number 7. My reason behind this is from personal experience and a romance study I participated in a few years ago. In the romance study, it showed that it has been scientifically proven that the butterfly feeling of love can only last 24-36 months. So for me, losing all sense of logic and reason isn't a sure sign that this is everlasting love. Two years in, the blinders will come off and you'll be left with someone thinking, "What the hell have I gotten myself into?" Same with sex - most sex is exciting, at first. But then the passion wanes. <br /><br />I'm married. I can honestly say that the passion I had for my husband in the beginning is not nearly as strong. We have to work at sex, try to get out of the same routine and comfort zone. When we watch a movie on the couch, my body isn't humming as I wonder if he'll make a move. I'm just hoping he won't fart.<br /><br />Basically, my thoughts boil down to this: Take note of your feelings, and know that your gut might be leading you in the right path. But also use your brain. Because when it comes to long-term, long-lasting love, you have to work at it. You can't rely on the feelings and sensations that you had in the beginning. You have to learn to compromise, to respect, to honor, and... not cave into the desire to slap the crap out of your significant other when they inevitably piss you off.<br /><br />:-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01919537391252413900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2918539518713791242.post-77289401944735859062013-10-18T20:27:17.325-07:002013-10-18T20:27:17.325-07:00Shannon, I loved the video from last night. I cri...Shannon, I loved the video from last night. I cried, watched it a few times, cried more, and decided not to give up on that kind of love ....even at 50 years old and not in the best health. I have never been one to dream about marriage or need it, but with the passing of time I do think about having that connection and growing old with someone. I now want to get married and have that commitment. I also want her to give me a special proposal like the one on the video. <br /><br />I wanted to let you know. I read your blogs. I can feel the deep lack of confidence in yourself. I wish there was a way to give someone confidence....but as I have learned (and it took me many years) sometimes it comes with the years. Don't blame yourself so harshly (if you have to blame yourself at all). Try to love yourself and be kind to yourself like you would your best friend. Give yourself credit for being a good and caring person. Find compassion for yourself. <br /><br />I wish happiness for you...........and much peace within yourself!<br /><br />KarenKaren's Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05818081597095688999noreply@blogger.com